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Friday, January 15, 2010

Kang Heng

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I have two boys: the elder one a 5-yr-old who inspired the setting up of this blog, and the younger one a 22-month-old toddler that is the cute boy you see in the photo above.

His name is Koh Kang Heng (许康恒), because we wanted him to be healthy (健康,永恒). This is because Luck Heng the elder brother has been suffering quite a lot from ill-health, mostly due to the fact that he is attending pre-school, where we all know is a breeding ground for all sorts of germs and viruses to spread.

Kang Heng grew up pretty ok, but around the time when he was six months old, we noticed a little action that he seem to be doing frequently. He was bobbing his head once in a while, as if his neck muscles suddenly decided not to support the weight of the head. At our regular 6-month check up with the paediatrician, we mentioned it to him. However as the doctor could only imagine how it looked like from our description, he suggested it was just a weak neck (which is pretty common among 6-month-olds) and told us to just monitor.

As Kang Heng grew older, hand movement started to add to the occurrences of the head bobbing. Some people who see it thought it was rather cute (as with everything a baby does) and we did not think very much of it. At the same time, he was still not learning how to sit on his own, and mostly liked to laze on us whenever we carry him. We attributed all this to his 'laziness'.

Gradually, we started to see that the head bobbing and hand raising movements might look like something that is out of the ordinary. After a quick search on the Internet, we learnt of the condition known as Tic, a sudden nonrhythmic movement or vocalization involving discrete muscle groups. It did not look too serious, and some equate it to hiccups. As such, we just thought of leaving it to the 12-month checkup with the paediatrician.

At the 12-month checkup, while describing the symptoms to the paediatrician, the attacks came. After witnessing it for himself, the paediatrician immediately referred us to a neurologist paediatrician for follow-up check, as he suspects this is a form of infantile spasm.

Luckily, we were able to get an appointment with the neurologist the following day. We went back to research on infantile spasm, and the outlook did not look very good: the wikipedia page says that statistically 5 out of every 100 children with that do not survive beyond 5 years of age. Both Yoke Ping and I went to the neurologist with a heavy heart, and I remember I cried as I drove on CTE that day.

The neurologist looked at Kang Heng, and order a EEG Test. This is a test where we had to place multiple electrodes on the scalp of Kang Heng to record the activities of his brain wave. It was really a heart wrenching sight to see one's offspring with all those electrodes attached to the head, but what needs to be done, needs to be done.

The nurse recorded the brain waves under various conditions: awake, strobing lights, lights, dim lights, sleep etc. The most difficult part was to get Kang Heng to sleep. After some hours struggling in the EEG test room, we finally was able to get the recording done. The neurologist studied the report, and told us a slightly better news than we expected. The worst case scenario for such a EEG test is that it indicates disturbed brainwaves in all parts of the brain. In the case of Kang Heng, it seems to be localised in certain portions of the lower brain on the left and the right side. The diagnosis we get is "partial onset seizure".

To be sure about the diagnosis, the neurologist ordered an MRI test the following day. As such, the next after was spent trying to get Kang Heng to sleep on command again, since if he was awake, he would not keep still enough for the imaging in MRI to be captured properly. Kang Heng is one who will struggle a lot to keep himself awake, if he does not want to sleep when I try to rock him to sleep. The doctor gave some sedatives to make it easier for Kang Heng to go to sleep, but he kept on fighting it, shaking his head vigorously to keep awake. After some hours of struggling, he finally fell asleep, but both Yoke Ping and I were also exhausted. Finally the MRI was captured properly.

We had to go back to the neurologist a few days later for the MRI report. It turns out that the MRI report confirms the results of the EEG test, just that while one suggests that it is the malformation on the left temporal lobe that affected the right temporal lobe, the other suggests the reverse. It does not really matter. What matters is that we now know that both sides' temporal lobes had some malformation, and that is give rise to the seizure attacks.

I asked the neurologist does the malformation mean that Kang Heng will lose some functions in future. The answer is that the left and right temporal lobes are responsible for the language (or speech, I cannot remember clearly) functions of a person. However, due to this concept known as 'plasticity', the brain can try to use the 'good' portions around the malformed portions to try to compensate. The pre-condition is to keep the seizures in check such that the brain will stop using the malformed portions of the brain and start to learn to use the 'good' portions of the brain. Being a geek, I used the analogy of marking bad sectors on a harddisk and using other sectors around it to help myself understand this better. And the good news is that plasticity is higher the younger the person is. This means that as long as we are able to keep the seizures in check, there is a good chance that Kang Heng will be able to compensate for the loss of functions due to the malformed part of his brain.

Thus starts the regiment of giving Kang Heng the medications twice day. We started to give medication as instructed by the neurologist. The seizures still came at the rate of around 1 per day. Dosage was adjusted, and after a few days the frequency of the seizure was stretched slightly to 1 per 2 days. The cycle of adjusting dosage and sometimes medicine repeats, and along the way the frequency of seizure also fluctuates up and down. Sometimes it is once for 4 days, sometimes it is a series of 1 seizure for 3 consecutive days. Along the way, we simply followed the neurologist's advice to vary the dosage and also switch medicine when he finds that the original combination did not work well on Kang Heng.

These 2 video will give you a better idea of what happens when a seizure attacks.






He would usually start with being very daze and will not respond to our prompting. Then the area around eye brows and sometimes the nose will flush red. When the seizure comes, he will stare in space while the hands raise in the air for a few seconds. When he is in a sitting position, his head will bob (at around 0:12 position in the video).
We finally found one combination of medication plus dosage that successfully dragged the time between seizures to 4 weeks recently, however after that on 2 consecutive days he had 2 mild seizures with one twitch each.

While treating the seizure, the neurologist also pointed out in the first few visits that Kang Heng seemed to display traits of developmental delay. Specifically, at 12 months Kang Heng was not able to sit independently without external support. He recommended a physiotherapist to us, and we took up the advice.

The physiotherapy sessions started sometime in Mar or Apr 2009, and we really observe marked improvement in Kang Heng's gross motor skills over the months. By Dec 2009, he was able to sit, pull to stand, stand independently for a few seconds, cruise along furniture and take 2-3 steps independently. For a child with development delay, we think it is tremendous improvement, we have heartfelt thanks to the physiotherapist that helped us through this journey.

Other than gross motor skills, Kang Heng's speech and cognitive skills development are also delayed. We are now exploring starting speech therapy for Kang Heng, since he already starts to babble some unintelligible sounds. We have also queued up for a vacancy in one of the early intervention programmes, but still waiting.

My wife and me has accepted that Kang Heng may be slower in everything when compared to kids of the same age. However, luckily he is a rather happy kid, and we just let things take their own course. One thing for sure, every little progress he makes, that was easily taken for granted by parents of normal children, is a lot more appreciated by us.


Sunday, August 09, 2009

Singapore Pledge

Why wait until 8.22pm? Just do the pledge anytime you feel like it. :)

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Friday, January 30, 2009

七情上面的吉他表演

有一次乐恒在我的祖母(乐恒的曾祖母)面前玩了一段"Air Guitar",用双手在空中仿似弹吉它的模样。她给了我十块钱,要我买一个玩具吉他给乐恒。我找了很久,才发现市面上的玩具店并没有普遍售卖玩具吉他,而如果到ToysRUs购买,叫价竟然是百多块!

还好乐恒的祖母(我的母亲)知道了,到处去找,终于找到了下面照片里面的玩具吉他。

吉他一到手,乐恒竟然有款有形地拿起来弹。声音当然完全不对,但他的表情真的是七情上面!

大年初一带乐恒到曾祖母家拜年,顺道带上玩具吉他,让他表演。虽然似乎没有什么人在听他唱歌,但表演完后的掌声,让乐恒的眼中泛起满意的样子。真可爱!


Sunday, January 25, 2009

When the yakking of Luck Heng is much appreciated

The last few days had been grueling for me.  Luck Heng began to feel uneasy on Thursday evening and started to throw-up and 'down-load' throughout the night.  Every 30 mins, he will wake up with a slight groan that grows into loud wailing, as he complains of pain in the stomach.  A few times that night, he ended up passing some motion onto his pants, which caused him to cry uncontrollably as he feels ashamed that such things should not be happening on a 5-yr-old like him.

Brought him to the doctor's on Friday and took care of him the whole of Friday and Saturday.  Both days see him laying on the sofa listlessly, as if all the energy is zapped from him through the various episodes of vomit and diarrhoea.  Nothing much went into his system, except for some porridge and bread.

On Saturday evening, he felt a little better, hence he threw a small tantrum when he saw his dinner was still porridge.  He insisted that he wanted to have rice for dinner.  Seeing that his fever from two days ago has subsided, we relented.  

It was quite a mistake, because a few hours later, he threw up his dinner again, and that's when he said: "连晚餐都吐出来了。"  Somehow though, after that episode, he had a good night's rest.

At around 6am today, both Yoke Ping and I were coincidentally woken up by different reasons, and so we decided to perform one task for Lunar New Year that we have not completed yet - to prepare the Ang Pows - at that time.

Just as we were counting the money, Luck Heng woke up and starting asking me if he could play his Lego Police Station.  I was quite delighted, as the past two days he was so weak that he did not even have an inkling of interest in playing any of his toy.  We left him on his own to play his toy, while we we busy with the Ang Pows.

As he played, the normal Luck Heng returned: he was yakking both to himself and to us.  Usually we would find his yakking rather repetitive, some times boring, and at times irritating.  However, this time we were both appreciating, as the return of the yakking means that he is more or less recovered!

Monday, January 05, 2009

乐恒的第一个演唱会 - 一次愉快的经历

经过上星期的呼吁,有一位好心的姐姐看了乐恒可爱的video后,决定让出自己的演唱会门票给乐恒。我们在星期五傍晚带了乐恒在约定的时间地点和她见面,好让她把票交给我们。

之后的两天,乐恒一直在期待着星期天的来临,也不断的在车程中要求我一再的播放“五月天的新歌”。我也在博客看到台湾相信音乐的Joe的留言,叫我们可以不用担心,带乐恒去演唱会。但是因为没有留下联络方式,我也不知道该不该相信。

星期天下午,午觉过后,我就带着乐恒到演唱会会场。演唱会八点开始,我们六点到达,但已经是比好几千个粉丝迟了。反正迟也迟了,我就带乐恒到附近的购物中心买些点心当晚餐,回到会场,就学别人一样做在地上享用晚餐。


等了一回儿,会场开放,等了许久的粉丝们很有秩序的步入会场。到了我们入场时,只看到负责保安的工作人员,没有看到像是音乐公司的工作人员,我也没有询问是不是如Joe说的。

随着人群走向舞台,看到大群人们都挤到会场的中央,两侧竟然没什么人,我就拉着乐恒到了会场的左侧,很幸运的可以占到一个非常接近舞台左侧的地点。

环顾四周,会场算宽敞。头顶上乌云密布,但也因为这样,阵阵凉风习习吹来,让人觉得挺舒服的。但我心里也想,希望天气就一直保持在这样就好,如果下雨的话,就完了。



乐恒年纪小高度矮,要让他看到台上,我就必须想法子把他撑起来。十多公斤,说重不重,但如果要抱他一、两个小时,我是绝对没有办法做到的。很幸运的,我们所在的舞台左侧,就有将观众与工作区隔开的铁栏。我将乐恒抱上,坐在铁栏上,高度刚刚好!



乐恒开心地坐了一会儿,有一位保安人员有礼貌的提醒我们在演唱会进行时因为安全原因不可以这样坐。我就得开始动脑筋应该怎么办。突然我灵机一动,把带来的背包掛在自己前面,让乐恒坐上去。虽然这样做会让我腰酸,但也胜过用手抱。我就这样‘顶’着乐恒,听了前面的几首歌。




五月天开始表演,所唱的,都是乐恒热爱的歌曲:《疯狂世界》、《终结孤单》、《人生海海》、《倔强》等歌曲,乐恒都开心的唱着。这时有一位工作人员问我要不要让乐恒站在铁栏的另一面,一个小铁板上。我把乐恒抱过去,乐恒一站,高度刚刚好。又次很幸运的能够让乐恒和我更舒适地享受演唱会!



站在铁板上,乐恒更可以快乐的随着音乐跳起来。不一会儿,唱到《离开地球表面》,乐恒更是使劲地Jump!


接下来的歌曲,又有许多乐恒的最爱:《志明与春娇》、《垃圾车》、《出头天》、《恋爱ing》等,他都忘我地大声唱,大声笑。

工作区里的工作人员,也掏出电话,将他拍下来。我和这位工作人员交谈,他说看到乐恒这么小就几乎每一首歌曲都会唱,觉得很有趣。我告诉他乐恒的票是别人给的,因为我把他的video放上网。他就冒出一句:“你就是Joe说的那位!”

原来是真的!(在这里要向Joe道歉,因为之前对你的留言半信半疑。也要对给乐恒票的Joelle姐姐说对不起,害你没得出席这次的演唱会。)

工作人员还告诉我,原来是石头看到了我的网贴,请Joe转告新加坡的同事。五月天真的看到了乐恒给他们的话!真的很幸运!

原本以为是新歌飙唱会,只会唱新歌,应该不会搞到太迟,但竟然有bonus地唱了许多我们喜欢的旧歌。但乐恒毕竟还小,到了演唱会的尾声时也有点累了,但他却也坚持要听完全部的歌曲才肯回家。演唱会完后,他还问我:“为什么没有唱《私奔到月球》?”

回家之前,乐恒坚持要我吃完之前没吃的“晚餐”。我们父子俩就坐在室内体育馆的梯级上吃,也录了这一段话。



总的来说,乐恒那天的快乐是总总因素与许多不同的人所促成的。他经过这次愉快的经验后,也告诉我说一定要到八月的五月天演唱会去!


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Monday, December 29, 2008

O买尬! (Oh My God!)

“五月天,我没有去过你的演唱会。我很想去你的演唱会!”



其实乐恒不知道/不记得自己其实在妈咪肚子里时陪过爸爸妈妈去过一次五月天的演唱会。或许胎教这回事是真的吧,年纪小小的他自从一两年前就非常喜欢五月天的歌曲。有机会坐我的车,都会要求听五月天的歌;每天晚上临睡前,也常常哼唱几首给几个月大的弟弟听;连大人问他最喜欢看什么电视节目,答案只有1.DisneyPlayhouse 2.五月天的演唱会DVD。

这次在第一时间买了五月天的最新专辑之后,知道能够换取免费的新歌飙唱会门票,我也兴奋的告诉乐恒我可以带他去五月天的演唱会了。我弟弟也买了一张专辑,但因为有事不能去听,就把兑换券交给了我。

12月28日兑换门票,很兴奋的带了一家大小到Central购物中心去。虽然是比指定时间早一个半小时抵达,心里有数人龙必定会长。但万万没有料到有如此的长!沿着人龙从头一直走,在购物中心外转了两个角落,才在新加坡河畔看到了“龙尾”。Oh My God! 伤脑筋!

太阳并不留情,正好中午,很用力的将滋养万物的强烈光与热洒在我们身上。虽然有阳伞遮荫,却也只能稍微驱走一点点快将人煮熟的热气。乐恒小小的头,平时就很容易满头大汗,这时更是有如刚从浴室中出来一样的湿!为了鼓一鼓他的“士气”,我叫他唱了一首五月天的歌曲:


花了大约一个小时在烈日下排队之后,工作人员开始派票,也有叫人到排队的人群中提醒大家把CD和兑换券拿出来。我又仔细一看,才发现兑换券上的小字写着一张兑换券+CD换一张门票!一张票,当然不可能让乐恒独自去,但也不可能让一名成人带他去。Oh My God! 伤脑筋!

突然灵机一动,想起弟弟的兑换券,就希望工作人员可以看在乐恒才仅仅五岁就那么热爱五月天,再加上有兑换券不就证明有购买CD了,可以网开一面,让我们换两张门票。

不料,轮到我们换票时,工作人员还是遵守规则,只给了我一张门票。他们的尽责态度是对的,但我也暗暗为乐恒失望。没想到,乐恒竟然脱口说了一句:“爸爸,只有一张票,我们share share(共用)吧!” 这句话令我心中又喜又悲。喜的是平日对乐恒的教诲,玩具、东西都应该共用,他记得很清楚;悲的是,我这个做老爸的,既然让他有了期待,却不能让期待实现。Oh My God! 伤脑筋!

晚上回家途中乐恒突然对我说:“爸爸,我要跟你讲话:我没有去过五月天的演唱会,我很想去。”我就叫他录了一段话给五月天(上面第一个video)

希望五月天或滚石新加坡能听到乐恒的呼吁,完成他的心愿。